This quote has been floating around Pinterest and Facebook lately…
…and it’s wearing on my last nerve.
Mostly it saddens me because it’s SUCH BAD ADVICE!!
If you go into a relationship looking to find “completion” or for some kind of healer who can magically erase every scar on your heart…you’re destined to become one of the 50% of marriages ending in divorce.
The only person who can “complete” you is Jesus.
The only one who can hug away your brokenness is Christ.
Day dreaming that another, equally broken human being can be your HERO and ‘put you back together’ is placing an ENORMOUS weight upon someone’s shoulders, inviting gobs of resentment, and setting you up for bucket loads of disappointment.
(and I’m talking BIG buckets here. like those 5 gallon ones.)
Lest you misunderstand…I have an incredibly happy and satisfying marriage and have loved, and been loved by, my husband for over 17 years now.
(I’m blessed, I know!)
But let-me-tell-ya….finding the love of your life does NOT erase the human-ness from either of you.
A happy, fulfilling marriage is beautiful.
It’s a friendship…a priceless gift…a life long conversation.
But a relationship is not a magic potion.
Marriage is not about finding someone to fix you, complete you, or carry you off into the sunset.
Marriage is about walking alongside someone who is just as broken, imperfect and confused as you are… arm in arm… forgiving, loving, and sharing life… until Jesus calls us home.